Tinyme delivers big fun with The Amazing Alphabet + #Giveaway!

If you’ve been following us for awhile, you probably know I have a bit of a weakness for personalized gift ideas. With two kids on the blog with fairly unique names, it can be a challenge to get anything with their names at a regular store. So when we come across fun personalized books and goodies we can’t help ourselves! Recently I discovered TinyMe, a Melbourne-based print company that has something hidden up their sleeves with books that surprised even me. Continue reading →

The Stylish Mom’s ABC’s – how to rock your style

The Joy of Style Dee Clark Stylish Mom ABC

The Stylish Mom’s ABC’s – The majority of our clients are mothers, and 100% of them tell us they want to stop feeling frumpy. For many moms, comfort, ease, what’s clean, (and can I breastfeed in this?) become the main considerations when putting an outfit together. It’s easy to get stuck in a style rut when your wardrobe consists primarily of yoga pants and knitwear. This leads to wardrobe boredom, body loathing and feelings of frumpiness. Being a stylish mom doesn’t have anything to do with losing your baby weight or “getting your body back” (whatever that means). Nor does being a stylish mom have to be expensive or fussy. In fact, it’s as easy as learning your ABC’s. Continue reading →

Exploring nature and the circle of life with Born In China {Review}

Born In China

Take a family trip to China and explore the habitats and family structures of some of China’s most iconic wildlife, all without stepping on a plane, with DisneyNature’s Born In China. From adorable fuzzy baby panda MeiMei and her mother YaYa in a lush bamboo forest, to the tops of the highest mountain plateau on Earth where snow leopard momma Dowa is also at the top of the food chain, and places in between, you will get an inside view of what the circle of life means for five very different animals. Continue reading →

Disney’s Tangled Before Ever After + #Giveaway

Disney Tangled Before Ever After

If you’re a Disney fan, chances are you’ve seen Tangled once or twice (or in our house.. about a half a million times). It’s hard not to love the energetic Rapunzel on a journey of self-discovery after being locked away for years in her tower. We always thought her story would end with just the happily ever after, but have you ever wondered what happened before the big wedding? Disney’s Tangled Before Ever After is sharing just that story! Continue reading →

On Modern Parenting and Gender Equality

Michael Kwan - On Modern Parenting and Gender EqualityWhat is a dad doing on a website called British Columbia Mom? A similar question might have been asked of a fellow dad blogger when he attended an after-school workshop for tween girls with questions about the changes their bodies were about to undergo… and he was the only male in a room filled with mothers and their daughters. And he was the only one willing to speak openly about anatomy, hormones and monthly cycles.

My daughter is only two years old and I can only hope to be as courageous as my friend when the time comes to give “the talk.” What I can tell you is that ever since I became a father, ever since I learned I was going to be a father to a baby girl, I’ve become much more aware and much more cognizant of gender issues.

A Study in Pink and Blue

It’s not like I didn’t know about gender inequality and “traditional” gender roles before; it’s just that they became much more prominent and important in my life. As I walked down the baby and toy aisles, I was suddenly completely enveloped in a sea of Pepto-Bismol pink. And it’s not like there’s anything wrong with girls who like pink; it’s a problem, though, if “girly-girl pink” is the only option being put forward.

I want her to assert herself and be able to make her own decisions. I want her to understand that boys and girls (and men and women) should be equal and should be afforded equal opportunity. And like so many other things in life, she’s going to learn a lot about gender roles and gender expectations from her parents.

She’s going to see how I treat her mother, just as she’s going to see how her mother treats me. What she sees will form what she thinks is normal.

Death to Supermom

Over on my own blog, I’ve written about how the myth of Supermom is harmful for both parents. We can’t and shouldn’t expect mom to perform all the household duties, in addition to advancing her career and taking care of the kids. It’s not about dad “pitching in,” because we need to discard the concept of the incompetent dad too.

That’s not what modern parenting should look like, especially in a city like Vancouver where the cost of living often necessitates a dual income household.

I can’t speak for other families. I don’t know what their division of labour looks like. Maybe there is one primary breadwinner and the other partner is a full-time stay-at-home parent. And that works for them. That dynamic is different from our family. But I feel like many couples misinterpret what modern, progressive parenting looks like in the context of gender equality and equal division of labour.

It doesn’t need to be 50/50 across the board.

Addie - On Modern Parenting and Gender Equality

Stay in Your Lane

When a couple sees themselves as modern and progressive, they might say that they discard traditional gender roles. They’re equal partners in every way, so they should divide up the household duties in an equal fashion too.

He will cook dinner on Mondays, Wednesdays and Fridays, while she will cook on Tuesdays, Thursdays and Saturdays. He picks up Susie from band practice on the first and third week of the month, whereas she’ll pick up Susie on the second and fourth week. This hard structure may work for some families, but it’s hardly the only way.

Parenting duties and responsibilities can also be shared equitably through specialization. A friend of mine calls this the “stay in your lane” approach.

In our family, I tend to do 99% of the driving. This is partly because I’m typically better with directions and parking. She does most of the cooking, because she is decidedly more masterful in the kitchen than I’ll ever be. Anything that has to do with money — household budget, managing the mortgage, filing our income tax returns — falls in my lap, but she’ll be the one who clips coupons to ensure we get the best deal on our groceries.

She still drives when I’m not around, just as I still cook when she’s not around. While we can both step into the other person’s role on an as-needed basis, we tend to stay in our respective lanes. In this way, division of labour is not strictly 50/50, because we are not dividing each and every responsibility in half. That doesn’t make sense to us.

Never Keep Score

Is cooking a delicious meal more important than managing the family budget? Is mowing the lawn and pulling up the weeds more valuable than doing a load of laundry? These questions are pointless and will lead only to grief and frustration. By far the most important lesson to understand with modern parenting is that you should never, ever keep score. Just do what needs to be done. And ask for help when you need it.

When my daughter sees her father folding the laundry or her mother assembling a new dresser, she’ll recognize what modern parenting can look like. We’re hardly perfect, but we make it work.

Michael Kwan is a freelance writer and dad blogger at btr.michaelkwan.com, covering the joys of food and fatherhood at Beyond the Rhetoric. He thinks he might be thinking too much. Fueled by caffeine and WiFi. You can find him on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram and YouTube.

Playland welcomes new ride additions – opening May 6! #Events

Playland The Beast 2017

It may not feel like it yet, it’s been a little damp and chilly, but summer is just around the corner, and one of the best parts of the summer is Playland! You don’t have to wait until summer actually arrives though; they’re opening in just one week! With some brand new things happening for 2017, plus all your old favourites, Playland is an ideal destination for some thrilling fun and entertainment. Continue reading →